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Why Cyber Bullies Can Kick Rocks With No Frigging Socks!

Why Cyber Bullies Can Kick Rocks With No Frigging Socks!

Many of you remember my infamous post that I wrote last year for Essence.com about being open to dating outside my culture.  Apparently the topic upset a few thousand folks and they came for me like I stole something from their mama. This was a level of cyber-bullying that I had never seen or experienced […]
Are We Doing Enough To Save Young Black Men?

Are We Doing Enough To Save Young Black Men?

We’re once again preparing to observe the Martin Luther King Jr. holiday and although this is always as good a time as ever to reflect on race relations, this year I’m most concerned with discussing how we relate to each other—particularly what we teach our young Black men. Are we doing enough to save our […]
I’m No Hater, I Just Won’t Co-Sign Your Mess

I’m No Hater, I Just Won’t Co-Sign Your Mess

Note: This post was featured in it’s entirety on Essence.com Ladies, have you ever been awakened with something in your spirit and you just had to act on it? Well, that is precisely how this blog post came about. I’ve been itching to dive into this topic for a while, and I suppose the start […]

Revisiting My Husband Requirements After 40

Note: This post appeared in it’s entirety on Essence.com The older I get, the more I find myself being intentional about my wants, needs and desires. For instance, I’m a firm believer in “speaking it into existence,” so last week while I was engrossed in posting one of my #DearFutureHubby Facebook status updates, I had […]

Sex, Seduction and Safety for the Single Woman

This article was originally posted in it’s entirety on Essence.com Last week I made my regular run to my neighborhood drug store to pick up some “womanly items,” and I was in a witch-on-a-broom kinda mood as I stood in the rather lengthy line waiting to check out. Then I heard a man’s baritone voice […]

I Love God, But I Don’t Do Church

This article was featured in its entirety on Essence.com I was born and raised in the Bible Belt, and I have lived most of my adult life here, yet I haven’t consistently attended church in nearly 20 years.  My southern-bred family has not been very subtle about the fact that they are disappointed and embarrassed. […]

She’s Wrong For That! How To Fight Fair In Your Relationship

NOTE: This article appeared in it’s entirety on Essence.com Picture this: You and your man are having a heated argument in the car on the way to the movies. Just when you are about to make a good point, he leans over and turns up the radio volume to drown you out. You spin your […]

It’s Time For a Mean Girl Intervention (ONLINE)

Note: This article appeared in it’s entirety on Essence.com Lately I’m finding it more difficult to say the word “sisterhood” without having it ooze with sarcasm. Especially since nowadays the majority of my interactions with women are within online communities. Everywhere I turn, there are packs of (or should I say gangs) of women who […]
Drama Queen Rehab 101

Drama Queen Rehab 101

In my previous post (Drama Queens Get No Love!), I sited several cases of how being a Drama Queen doesn’t work in your favor. And as promised I will share the steps I took to make me a “recovering drama queen.” Here are the 5 steps I implemented. STEP 1 – MAKE THE DECISION: When […]
Why Is She So Fat? A Voice From Inside The Obesity Epidemic

Why Is She So Fat? A Voice From Inside The Obesity Epidemic

Note: This article appeared in it’s entirety on Essence.com Let’s just start with the obvious here: Yes, I am overweight. I’m not talking 15 or 20 vanity pounds; I am, without a doubt, obese. I have struggled with weight since I was a teenager and it is still a daily challenge for me. And, with […]