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8 First Date Do’s & Dont’s For Modern Dating

Note: This article appeared on Essence.com in its entirety. Nowadays, a lot of personal interactions have gotten too technical – literally! – and because of it, dating just ain’t what it used to be. Long, late-night phone conversations have been replaced with exchanging short text messages, and you first find out that a guy is […]
An Open Letter To Women Who Constantly Complain But Never Change

An Open Letter To Women Who Constantly Complain But Never Change

Note: This post appeared in its entirety on Essence.com and Huffington Post. Additionally, there was also follow up Interview with HuffPost Live on this topic. SEE INTERVIEW HERE! Dear Sista Complains A Lot: There is something that I’ve been wanting to say to you and I finally think it’s time. I’m hoping that you can […]

8 Signs You’re Dealing With An Emotionally Bankrupt Person

Let’s face it: relationships are hard enough when you have two sane, mature people, but throw just one damaged, emotionally bankrupt person in the mix and you’ve got a recipe for “hot mess gumbo.” When a person is emotionally void, there is no place from which they can draw love, kindness, empathy and any number […]
I Didn’t Give Up On Black Men, They Gave Up On Me!

I Didn’t Give Up On Black Men, They Gave Up On Me!

Yes, you read the title correctly, and I can see your eyebrows raised and neck hairs bristling up.  Don’t hop off the ride just yet. I need you to put on your seat belts and rock with me for a minute. I’m about to take you on a very personal journey that dropped me smack […]

10 Things All Women Need In Their Emotional Toolbox

NOTE:  This post appeared in its entirety on Essence.com and Huffington Post. I’m often amazed at how little value people place on emotions, particularly emotional wellness.  When your spirit catches a cold, it’s like the rest of you catches the flu. That negative energy manifests itself in everything from depression to disease. With women, there […]

Stop Making Excuses For Family Drama

NOTE: This post appeared in its entirety on Essence.com (different title) It has always amazed me how much dysfunction we allow in our lives, and we do so for the most ludicrous reasons. You ask, “Why do you stay with a guy who disrespects you?”  She answers, “Because I love him!” (In a Jamie Foxx […]

When Same Sex Love Is a Last Resort

NOTE: This post appeared on Essence.com in it’s entirety (different title) Last week, outspoken celeb Jada Pinkett Smith sparked quite an intense social media dialogue when she posted the following status on her Facebook page: In the last month, three women, in their 40s, coming out of long term relationships with men have confided in […]

Drama Queens Get No Love

NOTE: This post appeared in its entirety on Essence.com. This post is specifically for the scene-causing drama queens who show their hind parts at every opportunity. It’s for the intense instigators and tacky troublemakers that think “going in” on somebody is cute.  I’m talking directly to the antagonistic agitators that spit words of fire when […]

Sorry He Cheated and Yes It Is the End of the World

NOTE: This post appeared in its entirety on Essence.com Let me start by apologizing for the dismal title. It might not be that bad, but I needed to write this one without all the fluff. I’m noticing that women openly supporting each other through infidelity are popping up more and more lately. It’s not the […]

Stop Nursing The Pain: Moving Past Infidelity, Abuse and Emotional Suffering

THIS POST IS FEATURED IN ITS ENTIRETY AS SEEN ON ESSENCE.COM A few months ago, I had a radio interview where a male caller spoke candidly about his past philandering ways.   He swore he was a changed man these past 10 years, yet his wife still treated him as a whore-monger.  The gentleman was at […]