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Why Cyber Bullies Can Kick Rocks With No Frigging Socks!
Many of you remember my infamous post that I wrote last year for Essence.com about being open to dating outside my culture. Apparently the topic upset a few thousand folks and they came for me like I stole something from their mama. This was a level of cyber-bullying that I had never seen or experienced […]
You Fat B*tch!! : Tribe Building & The Power of Vulnerability
Last fall, I took one the most daunting steps of my life and made a public declaration about my life-long struggle with obesity. It was to date, the most hurtful, scary, stressful, liberating, exciting thing that I have done publicly (perhaps privately too). I never dreamed that my “naked truth” would land me on a […]
Are We Doing Enough To Save Young Black Men?
We’re once again preparing to observe the Martin Luther King Jr. holiday and although this is always as good a time as ever to reflect on race relations, this year I’m most concerned with discussing how we relate to each other—particularly what we teach our young Black men. Are we doing enough to save our […]
I’m No Hater, I Just Won’t Co-Sign Your Mess
Note: This post was featured in it’s entirety on Essence.com Ladies, have you ever been awakened with something in your spirit and you just had to act on it? Well, that is precisely how this blog post came about. I’ve been itching to dive into this topic for a while, and I suppose the start […]
Revisiting My Husband Requirements After 40
Note: This post appeared in it’s entirety on Essence.com The older I get, the more I find myself being intentional about my wants, needs and desires. For instance, I’m a firm believer in “speaking it into existence,” so last week while I was engrossed in posting one of my #DearFutureHubby Facebook status updates, I had […]
I Love God, But I Don’t Do Church
This article was featured in its entirety on Essence.com I was born and raised in the Bible Belt, and I have lived most of my adult life here, yet I haven’t consistently attended church in nearly 20 years. My southern-bred family has not been very subtle about the fact that they are disappointed and embarrassed. […]
I Didn’t Give Up On Black Men, They Gave Up On Me!
Yes, you read the title correctly, and I can see your eyebrows raised and neck hairs bristling up. Don’t hop off the ride just yet. I need you to put on your seat belts and rock with me for a minute. I’m about to take you on a very personal journey that dropped me smack […]
Stop Nursing The Pain: Moving Past Infidelity, Abuse and Emotional Suffering
THIS POST IS FEATURED IN ITS ENTIRETY AS SEEN ON ESSENCE.COM A few months ago, I had a radio interview where a male caller spoke candidly about his past philandering ways. He swore he was a changed man these past 10 years, yet his wife still treated him as a whore-monger. The gentleman was at […]